“… the discussion and context of the individual”
The
‘self’ can also be deemed as the
way in which communication and interpretation of messages takes place within
the individual.
As
we expand the concept of ‘self’, the area of ‘self’ can be explored and widen
into:
a. Self-concept
b. Self-awareness
c. Self-esteem
d. Self-disclosure
a. Self-concept
b. Self-awareness
c. Self-esteem
d. Self-disclosure
Self-concept:
It is how you feel
and think about yourself –
your perceptions and actions, your
feelings and thoughts, your strength and weaknesses,
your abilities and
limitations your pros and conts etc.
It is the image of who you are.
The areas that affects
self-concept:
a. Social
Comparison
b. Other’s
Images of you
c. self
interpretations & evaluations
d. Cultural teaching
The
areas that affects self-concept:
a. Social Comparison – we often compare and adjust our image and thinking with the way society acts and thinks.
For example – if society think it is cool to wear underwear on the head, chances are we might follow it! Fashion trends, popular culture, etc.
a. Social Comparison – we often compare and adjust our image and thinking with the way society acts and thinks.
For example – if society think it is cool to wear underwear on the head, chances are we might follow it! Fashion trends, popular culture, etc.
The
areas that affects self-concept:
b. Other’s Images of you – we often compare ourselves to those around us: friends, peers, etc.
For example – how well did you do in your exam compared to your friends?
Performing – music, art, sports = we often ask “How was it?” or “Did I do well?” to people close to us to seek a comparison.
b. Other’s Images of you – we often compare ourselves to those around us: friends, peers, etc.
For example – how well did you do in your exam compared to your friends?
Performing – music, art, sports = we often ask “How was it?” or “Did I do well?” to people close to us to seek a comparison.
c. self Interpretations & evaluations – your self-interpretation and self-evaluation are your standards that applies to your ethical and moral reasoning, beliefs and comprehension and conformity of things around you.
For example: Some may think lying is okay, but some may think lying is wrong. As a result, your ‘good’ and ‘bad’ list will be based on these things.
d. Cultural
Teachings
– your
culture instills in you a variety of
beliefs, values, and attitudes about such things as success.
Example: your ability to achieve
what your culture defines as success, contributes to a positive self-concept.
Self-Awareness:
Self awareness is the ability to discover things are known about yourselves –
a
process
of discovering your personal development and understanding.
This process is not only limited to the individual but also for others around
you that will help
you to
become self aware about your own ability.
The
Four Selfs – Johari Window:
The
Four Selfs – Johari Window:
-By Joseph Luft and
Harry Ingham.
-The four different windows
explains different parts of our
selves that we know ourselves;
others know better than we do;
some remain hidden from
others and some totally
UNKNOWN to you or
anyone.
-By Joseph Luft and
Harry Ingham.
-The four different windows
explains different parts of our
selves that we know ourselves;
others know better than we do;
some remain hidden from
others and some totally
UNKNOWN to you or
anyone.
Open
arena (Open self) – known
to self and others:
For example, you like the color red
because you wear red everyday and you tell
others you like red.
Façade
(Hidden self) – known
to self but unknown to others:
For example, you are afraid of
mice but you never show it because it makes you
lose your ‘coolness’ – for guys.
Blind
Spot (Blind Self) – Unknown
to you but known to others.
For example – non-verbal
messages, body languages. Some may rub their nose or
touch their face when they are
nervous.
Unknown
(Unknown Self) – Unknown
to you and others.
For example – a natural ability
or aptitude that a person doesn't realize they possess.
Growing
in self awareness:
1.Listen
to others
2.Increase
your open self
3.Seek
information about yourself
4.Dialogue
with yourself
Self-Esteem:
Self-Esteem means confidence or the level of trust or
assurance to
yourself.
A big part of our ‘self’ depends on how much we are confident with our beliefs,
our image, our
portrayal in public and with peers, etc.
It is always good to have high self-esteem, but don’t have overly high self-esteem that it
becomes self-destructive beliefs, for example: having the confidence to get A+ in Human
Communication is good, but having a target to get A+ for ALL subjects is a bit too harsh and
might be bad for you.
How to increase your self esteem?
1.Attack self-destructive belief
2.Seek out Nourishing people
3.Work on project that will result
in success
4.Remind yourself of your success
5.Secure affirmation
Self-Disclosure:
Self-Disclosure is an act of telling
others about things that they wouldn't know about you –
telling
your hidden self.
Self-Disclosure forms an important part of being true to our ‘self’ and making sure we are
happy with our lives.
Factors influencing self disclosure
1.who you are
2.Your culture
3.Your gender
4.Your listeners – small groups or
large groups
5.Your topic and channel.
Self-Disclosure:
Self-Disclosure’s advantages:
a. Gain confidence
b. Be more truthful about yourself
c. Make or strengthen
friendships and relationships
Self-Disclosure’s
disadvantages:
a. Lost of friends and trust
b. Additional pressure
and burden
c. Living with regret
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